6 Beliefs That Kill Your Career Goals

We should all have BIG goals as to where we would like to be in life. The issue is, no matter how many goals we set for ourselves, if we have self-defeating thought patterns and beliefs we will never really go for them. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 broke down six common, yet toxic beliefs that hold people back more than any others:


1. You think that you need to be perfect to be successful

Perfection is an impossible goal to attain, which is why perfectionists are often left feeling like failures. When you’re busy focusing on the things that you failed to accomplish, you’re not able to enjoy and celebrate all of your well deserved achievements. Every failure is a lesson and an opportunity to improve – embrace mistakes because they’re inevitable.

2. You think you’re not in control of your “destiny”

So many people like to blame things that are out of their control on why they are not accomplishing their goals. Of course this is the easy way out. Life will always throw obstacles in your way, but  that doesn’t mean that success just isn’t “meant to be” in a certain endeavor. It’s your ability to be resilient and continue to give 100% that will determine your ultimate success or failure.

3. You use the words “Always” or “Never”

There isn’t anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behavior in terms of “always” or “never” is a form of self-pity. It makes you believe that you have no control of yourself and that this is “just the way you are”. Remember, you are the one who set these rules for yourself, no one else. Make yourself flexible so that you can be the person who has the qualities needed to achieve your goals (more on this in my post on raising your standards).

4. You think that you succeed when others approve of you

Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain: you’re never as good or bad as they say you are. Even some of our goals may be for the sole purpose of gaining the approval of others – and if that is your intention, you are already setting yourself up for failure. Remember, the only opinion that matters is the one that you have of yourself. Work to make yourself proud at something you love and you’re sure to succeed.

5. You think that your past is a reflection of your future

It’s hard not to allow repeated failures to erode your self-confidence and make it hard to believe you’ll achieve a better outcome in the future. When we finally build up the courage to take risks and fail as a result, a defense mechanism is to instill fear in taking risks again. Ultimately, though, anything worth achieving is going to require taking risks. Try this activity that helps you overcome your fears.

6. You think that your emotions are your reality

If you’ve read Emotional Intelligence 2.0, you know how to take an objective look at your feelings and separate fact from fiction. Our emotions have the power to overcome our rational thinking, which is why it’s important to work on not being reactive when you know that your emotions are being fueled up. Learning to take a step back when you’re feeling angry or fearful and reframing a situation is key to ensuring you make decisions using common-sense and logic.




  1. Ashley,

    I love this! I am going to share it with my Entrepreneur group on FB. They will love it too!


  2. Ashley,

    It’s “The Network…Women Empowering Women!”.


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